I put my one year old daughter in a day-care: Sophia Isabel. There is no shame in seeking the help of daycare to bring up your child. It is not a bad place to put your child in to and you don’t have to feel guilty as a mother if you are sending your little one to a day-care. Life does not leave choices for everyone.
It took a lot of courage and determination for me to take this bold step. There will be a lot of pressure, especially from your relatives and in-laws. They could be really intrusive and each of them would be ready with a list of suggestion which only compounds our stress further.
I had no other option or choice but to put my one-year-old daughter in a day-care.
I wanted to have a job and work.. sitting idle at home was not working for me. A part of me wanted to be at home taking extra care of my kids, but situations were not feasible. Finally, I decided to go to work and with that came the decision of putting my daughter in a daycare.
I roped in my elder daughter at the daycare when she was barely a year old. My husband and I went hunting for a reliable one. We methodically went through the pros and cons and identified a suitable day care that was close to home.
Before I could join office, I started leaving her for half a day at the daycare. Slowly she got used to the place and people around her. I pack her food, snacks, kanji lunch, brunch, fruits and her clothes, nappies etc for a complete week.
A tough road to take as a new mother
After a few days, she started getting skin allergies, rashes, cold and cough. To add to the woes, she came down with a stomach infection. Till she was about two years and six months old, she had bouts of diarrhoea. I had to face this with a lot of determination and a smile on my face. There were days when I cried to sleep and kept wondering as to why my child and I had to face this. Soon she started feeling better and made good friends at the daycare.
Today I am proud that her social skills are better. In addition, her learning is fast, she is much more disciplined and will soon be an independent child.
It pains me to no end when my kids cry to go to daycare. Now my younger daughter who is one year old also goes to daycare from 9 months. They will have to go for a little more time and I face no guilt and shame in sending them to daycare.